Emotions Run Deep

... pain or emptiness and tell you what you need to do to remove it, and when you do, the pain goes away.

For example, hunger tells you to eat, and when you eat, the hunger goes away.

Loneliness says to connect with someone, and when you do, that too goes away.

Though sometimes and for some people, doing what the emotions say doesn't make the pain or emptiness go away.

For example, eating doesn't make some people's hunger go away, which is why they fall into a pattern of overeating. For some, being around others doesn't make their loneliness go away either.

This applies to other areas of your life.

You might feel shy, insecure, unsure, or anxious, with your emotions telling you that you need a big house, fast car, prestigious job, or you need to "do this," "have that," or "go there," without ever removing the feelings.

And like a carrot on a stick, the emotion will lead you to do all sorts of things, sometimes to the point of exhaustion, without ever going away.

In these cases, the way to remove the emotion is NOT to do what it is telling you, but to work on the emotion itself.

The way to do that is to:

1. First, be aware of the pattern. Know nothing the feelings ever tell you to do will change or remove them.

2. Next, see how valid the emotion is. If your feelings are saying no one cares, notice the people in your life that do. If the feelings are creating insecurity, look in your life to confirm otherwise.

3. Most importantly, sit with the feelings. Emotions are designed to be felt, so allow them to come up and "FEEL" them. All your emotions ever wanted was to be felt and once you do, it will subside.

It's hard to imagine that years and decades of heartaches and heartbreaks can go away (especially when nothing else has worked) simply by allowing and feeling them, but they can and do.

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