Anger Runs Deep
Anger is an overpowering...
emotion that comes with a strong urge to do something—usually something destructive.
Anger doesn't show up for any reason.
Like all emotions, it has a purpose...
Anger comes up to defend and protect
If attacked by a predator, the brain will shoot anger through your body to prepare you for a fight or to defend yourself.
Though in modern times, anger is LESS about protection from the outside world and MORE about our own emotions.
That’s right...
Anger is protecting you from your own emotions
If something or someone has the potential to trigger unpleasant feelings like rejection, shame, or embarrassment, anger will come up to protect you.
Often, you don’t notice the unpleasant feeling underneath, you just FEEL the anger.
So when you’re angry...
There’s likely feelings of hurt or shame inside
Instead of letting the hurt or shame come up, the defense mechanism triggers anger to keep you from feeling it and/or letting others know it's there.
Often we’re acting on the anger, too blinded by it to see what we’re doing.
Another thing to understand is...
When someone makes you angry, DOESN'T mean they did anything wrong
Anger can make it seem like you were wronged and someone needs to fix it.
Though, it's possible to be triggered by someone without them having done anything wrong or anything actually be wrong.
What’s more...
If you’re angry, it means you want something
When we have anger or charge with a person, it’s not for any reason.
It comes up because we WANT or DIDN'T get something from them.
It could be as simple as attention, affection, or approval, or something bigger like for them to buy or take care of something.
Though...
It can seem like the opposite
That we DON’T want something or even that we don’t like the person.
But the reality is, we want something!
Next time you’re angry...
Ask yourself, what is it that I’m wanting?
Though it helps to work on the underlying emotions that triggered the anger
If you’d like to do that...
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The real power comes when you stop reacting to anger and start understanding it.
It's time to finally uncover what your anger is trying to tell you, and release the pain it's been protecting...
Kam